“When you can stop, you don’t want to and when you want to stop, you can’t…” – Luke Davies
Sexual addiction is defined as a progressive intimacy disorder, representing compulsive sexual thoughts and activities. Sex addiction affects both men and women.
The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.”
There are biological, psychological, and social factors that contribute to the development of this disorder.
Parallel to all addictions, sex addiction’s negative impact on the person and his/her family members multiplies as the disorder ascends.
For some sex addicts, their behavior does not surmount compulsive masturbation, frequent one-night stands, multiple sexual partners, unsafe sex, the extensive use of pornography or phone and computer sex services.
But the ones with severe addiction can get involved in illegal activities such as exhibitionism, voyeurism, obscene phone calls, child molestation or rape.
Exhibitionism is the urge to expose one’s sexual organs; voyeurism is spying on people’s intimate moments; an obscene phone call is an unsolicited, sexual telephone call; child molestation is using a child for sexual stimulation and rape involves sexual intercourse against the other person’s consent.
Feelings of shame, inadequacy, guilt and emotional distress can accompany a sex addict’s unsuccessful attempts to control their sexual urges and compulsions.
Sex is a regular healthy function and expecting a sex addict to forgo sex for the rest of his or her life is unrealistic. Persons seeking help have to learn to distinguish healthy and non-healthy sexual behavior. There are treatment centers where one can seek help.
Lastly, I would say, recovery will be challenging, but it will be worth it.
You deserve to be a happier and stronger person.
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